Finding Love Again

I look at my life and I thank God that I am here to see thirty-five years old. I've had some relationships that didn't make any sense at all. I've had relationships that really hurt me, and left me devastated. I've learned something or a lot from every relationships that I've ever been in. I've learned to never repeat the same mistakes twice. I've learned to never bring old baggage from an old relationship into a new one, because it' not fair to the new guy, and he don't deserve that. He deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. 

When in a relationship; you have to have time, patience, respect, honesty, trust, loyalty, and communication to make it really work. You have to always be honest with one another. You can never have secrets between the two of you, or you'll be doomed from the start. You can't have everybody all up in your business. Keeping people out of your business is a necessity. When you put everybody in your relationship they will constantly have something to say. 

To keep your relationship safe; never let your single friends hang around your boyfriend or girlfriend. You have to also keep an eye on your family as well. Family are the main people to cause you harm if you not watching. You have to always nurture your relationship. What I mean by nurture is you have to spend quality time together, you have to listen, you have to talk. You have to really make that quality time for one another. You have to put love into your relationship. Make it grow and prosper.

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Matchmaking

I've been around people who met through another person or through other people. And I do think it's a wonderful thing when you can do that for somebody. But there is a down side to matchmaking. I think when you don't listen to the person who's searching for somebody things could really go down hill and quick. Everybody have their preferences of what they like and what they don't like. So I feel like when you're playing matchmaker; you really should and need to listen. If that person tells you they don't want somebody younger than them, you really need to listen. Not everybody wants a younger man or woman. If somebody tells you they want somebody who's physically attractive don't turn around and call that person superficial. 

People are so quick to call people superficial when playing matchmaker, and that's very hurtful and judgmental. That's just not right. Don't go around saying you'll help somebody find love, and then don't want to know what they person is looking for. That's a dangerous situation really waiting to happen. 

I can talk from experience. I was matched up with a younger dude, and to be honest he just wasn't the one for me at all. He way to young and then he lived in the past. I can't build a friendship with somebody who is stuck in the past. So just be careful when introducing people. 

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A New Year

I made no new years resolution, because I always break them. But I did tell myself that I going into 2014 dragging a relationship that wasn't working, and I kept that promise to myself. God knows I'm proud of myself for keeping that promise to myself. I saw that I wasn't happy with dude, and I had to let it go. Deep down I knew he didn't want to be with me another. There was just too many lies being told that really didn't need to be told. Lies will catch, especially when you lie so much, and you can barely remember the lies you tell. 

I'm here to tell you; don't stay in a bad situation. That situation can cause you your physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional health. And trust me; that's not good at all. You have to love you before you can love anybody else. Take time for yourself. Figure out what you want, and where you going in your life. Figure out who you want to before you jump in a relationship. That's the advice that was given to me so many time, and I've never followed it. So since this is a new year; I'm going to do a lot of things differently. I'm going to really try, and be me but a different me. And I hope everybody else is doing the same.

Be careful of what you do.

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